New video on changing your thinking before changing your behavior and the foundation I use in life coaching with WANTING something versus WILLING it into action.
Life Coach Tommy: Hey guys, Life Coach Tommy here, hope you had a great weekend, hope you’re ready for a productive week! Really quick, I want to talk about two things: I want to talk about the idea of wanting something and the idea of willing it into action.
I just did chest this morning – just got done with the gym – for those keep tracking I was really sick in December and I received a huge setback but I’m getting my strength back and I’m getting back to the numbers I’m used to – I think probably by the end of next week, I’ll be there again.
So, there’s this idea of wanting something versus willing it into action. What I mean by that is, whatever you want in life, if you want to earn $10,000,000 – for example – let’s reach for the stars – if you want $10,000,000 or if you want to earn $10,000,000 – if you want to be in a financial position for $10,000,000, and you say, “I want $10,000,000.” What you’ve done is that you’ve literally just created a want. It’s all you’ve done. Like, “I WANT $10,000,000!” And if we go metaphysical, you’re telling the Universe “I want $10,000,000.” And the Universe responds saying, okay, great, I acknowledge, you want $10,000,000, and, typically, nothing will happen.
But, when you change your mentality to: “I will earn $10,000,000.” Something changes in your mind and the Universe takes note – like, this guy’s willing something into action and you actually take things, you actually start thinking, well, how is that possible, what can I do – you make a commitment to yourself.
Now, $10,000,000 for anyone, in this world in today’s age, in this country, the United States, is attainable. But, for something a bit more short-term and I use the word ‘realistic’ (i.e. in the next month or so) we look at fitness. If you want to lose 10lbs in 2 months, that’s great. But if you say that you will lose 10lbs in 2 months and you commit to the action necessary to make that happen, it’s more than likely to happen because it’s a positive psychological technique to WILL something into action than to want it.
This is something I focus on especially when it comes to business coaching and taking my client’s business to the next level. So, anything you want today – anything you plan on achieving this week, any goals that you have, any needs you have, any wants you have for this week. See what happens to your mentality when you say that “I WILL do this.”
If you WANT to reach a goal. If you WANT to hit some specific numbers. If you WANT to start an action plan for losing weight – see what happens when you say that you WILL do it, see what happens to your mentality.
The second thing I wanted to talk about, and this is going to be super quick, the idea of changing behavior or changing thoughts. There is a long thought process that as long as you pursue the action, then your mentality will change.
Unfortunately, that’s actually inaccurate because, if you change your behavior and your mind is still not changed, that behavior that you’re trying to change, that patterned behavior, is highly likely not going to be consistent – it’s not going to – you’re not going to stick to that action.
But, if you can change your thoughts first – and this is parallel to what I talked about before with the want vs will, if you change your thoughts and you really commit and you change your mentality and you believe in yourself and you believe you can achieve things – good things, great things – THEN you’re behavior will change.
So, look at your thoughts first, change the way you think and that will change your behavior. Trying to change your behavior is good, but those who think that just doing the actions and doing the stuff is going to change your mentality – unfortunately it doesn’t necessarily work out that way – because, again, while it can last, you’re going to still have those thoughts in your head, those negative thoughts, that negative mentality and the behavior you’ve worked so hard to change – it’s not going to change.
Anyways, if there’s a subject you want me talk about in these videos, if there’s something you have a question about, let me know. Send me a message, send me a comment, and I’ll recognize you by name – if you want, if you don’t, let me know. But I’ll recognize you and I’ll respond to your comment via this video I’m posting. So, anyways, I hope you have a terrific productive Monday and a productive week.