The very first thing I look into when starting a relationship with a life coaching client is their communication skills. I assess where they are in their life when it comes to two extremely important avenues of communication: the way they communicate with the people around them, and, most importantly, the way they communicate with themselves.
The second part is where we dig deep, for if we aren’t starting off with positive communication with self, we aren’t going to get anywhere.
It is so important to develop a positive relationship with self. If you aren’t developing a positive relationship with yourself, it is virtually impossible to have a positive relationship with anyone else in your life.
Once you’ve learned to love yourself, you can genuinely express and communicate positively with others and you’ll be surprised by how much easier it will be to fulfill your goals.
Today, use this Monday to motivate yourself into positive self-love. If you’ve damaged the relationship with self, take time, be patient, but start today by looking at yourself in the mirror and appreciating the positive strengths you do have.
“Nothing happens to anyone that he is not formed by nature to bear.” -Marcus Aurelius
We have all heard the phrase ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ and it’s extremely true…if you pay attention.
The funny and interesting thing about our existence in this universe is that everything that happens to us, if we can control our perception, can be used to overcome the next challenge or struggle that will inevitably enter our path.
We must pay attention, though. Often, my clients will perceive themselves as victims to some benevolent force that doesn’t want them to enjoy a fulfilling life.
This simply isn’t true. YOU are your own benevolent force. YOU have control over your own perceptions and your own response toward the events that happen.
Use them to learn so that nature can be seen as an educational tool for your life.
Today is, of course, a day of thanks. Normally, many families come together and spend time reflecting on what it is they are thankful for. Most often, this is done in quiet reflection.
Take time and communicate to those closest to you how much you are thankful for them being part of your life.
But also, don’t forget about yourself. Be sure to make some time to look in the mirror and thank yourself for how far you’ve come. If the relationship you have with yourself is less than positive, it’s time to identify that. At least identify your strengths, and be thankful for those.
If you’re not able to look yourself in the mirror and have an honest loving conversation, it may be time for us to talk about Life Coaching.
Losing Weight, as mentioned previously, is one of the most common reasons someone would hire a life coach. It’s the number one reason people decide to hire me. The reason, however, why my clients want to lose weight, usually digs deeper into more profound limiting beliefs I enjoy uncovering.
And it usually surrounds trying to impress someone. The tragedy behind that reason is that three things happen:
A) The subject is impressed, but their response is underwhelming.
B) The subject is impressed, the receiver receives all that they were hoping for, but, like an addicts high, the feeling dissipates over time.
C) The subject is unimpressed.
All three of these events lead my clients back to their normal eating habits…
The take away here is to find a reason YOU want to impress yourself. Most of my clients learn very quickly that my approach is guided toward self-love.
Do things for yourself and you’ll be amazed at the power you’ll have in achieving your goals.