A Cheat Sheet for the Life Coaching Process 

The Life Coaching process, overall, can be extremely deep, but fulfilling and I wanted to share a quick snapshot of what one can expect on the initial coaching session. Rarely will my clients experience a lot of me telling them what they SHOULD or OUGHT to do. My sessions are, overall, guided by the client. Much like a therapy session, I use the Socratic approach to help my clients dig deep inside themselves by asking strong questions. Here are a select handful of questions I will ask my clients on the initial session so that we can discover in what direction we should go, moving forward, on other sessions.

1. Why do you feel that you need a life coach?
Every Life Coach will (or should) ask this question. It’s an obvious question that helps us uncover the initial motivation of seeking the guidance of a life coach. 

2. How’s that going for you?
This is a gentle question that allows a soft prod into how deep is the specific issue brought up in Question #1. Often, we’re able to uncover completely separate issues my client wasn’t consciously thinking about. We’re able to attack those head on (typically a limiting belief my client didn’t even know they had!)

3. How long has this been going on?
An obvious question that lets me know how far these issues have gone on while showing my client, front-and-center, how long they’ve been living this way.    

4. What have you tried to do about it? 
Always important to uncover if there are any tools that are already working or, conversely, the specific tools that are failing.

5. How’d that work out?  
A continuation of Question #4 – showing both of us what has/hasn’t worked and the consequences or opportunity those efforts created.

6. How much do you suppose that’s cost you?  
This doesn’t necessarily have to be any sort of dollar amount. This is a deep question really designed to uncover consequences, limitations, and anything else holding my client back from bringing positive change into their lives.

7. How much longer do you think this is going to go on?  
Another deep question allowing my client to visualize a future of immediate change.

8. What happens if it doesn’t change?  
This question is a partner of Question #7, letting my client visualize a future where nothing changes. This question is designed as a wake-up call to show the client how important it is to stop living the way they have. 

9. How does that make you feel?
This is the deepest question of all. The entire time we’ve been thinking logically about certain circumstances revealed in the session. Some issues the client may not have realized they were dealing with. Turning away from logic and looking inward to the heart and soul, we’re able to come to an agreement that something has to change!

10. What should we do?  
And this is where the fun begins! Armed with the knowledge of what needs to change, we’re able to team up and figure out, together, what action plan needs to take place to get the momentum rolling for positive permanent growth! 

It is important to note, again, that not everyone gets asked every single question, or in this order. My clients show me, through conversation, what they need and we develop an action plan together.

Are you ready for your initial life coaching session? Are you ready to answer these tough questions? Let’s get to work: CONNECT

 

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Want vs Will

When I first speak with my life coaching clients, our focus is aligned toward what they want out of life, and what they think they need to change in order to make their lives more fulfilling.

And each time my clients say they ‘WANT’ something or they ‘WANT’ to be something, I ask if they’re committed enough to that idea to shift their focus and say that they WILL have it or they WILL be it.

Whenever you say ‘I WANT to be a millionaire.’ The Universe takes note and creates it for you. The WANT is created and nothing else.

But when you say you WILL be a millionaire, the universe takes note of that as well. Suddenly, your inner psychology takes control and starts constructing paths on how to get there.

Once my clients are committed to what they WILL become or have, we are then able to focus on the next step and lay out a path of HOW.

Don’t be a ‘wannabe’, commit, make a decision and say what you WILL become, what you WILL have, what you WILL do and the Universe will take note.

Nature

“Nothing happens to anyone that he is not formed by nature to bear.” -Marcus Aurelius

We have all heard the phrase ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ and it’s extremely true…if you pay attention.

The funny and interesting thing about our existence in this universe is that everything that happens to us, if we can control our perception, can be used to overcome the next challenge or struggle that will inevitably enter our path.

We must pay attention, though. Often, my clients will perceive themselves as victims to some benevolent force that doesn’t want them to enjoy a fulfilling life.

This simply isn’t true. YOU are your own benevolent force. YOU have control over your own perceptions and your own response toward the events that happen.

Use them to learn so that nature can be seen as an educational tool for your life.

Losing Weight Part 2

Losing Weight, as mentioned previously, is one of the most common reasons someone would hire a life coach. It’s the number one reason people decide to hire me. The reason, however, why my clients want to lose weight, usually digs deeper into more profound limiting beliefs I enjoy uncovering.

And it usually surrounds trying to impress someone. The tragedy behind that reason is that three things happen:

A) The subject is impressed, but their response is underwhelming.

B) The subject is impressed, the receiver receives all that they were hoping for, but, like an addicts high, the feeling dissipates over time.

C) The subject is unimpressed.

All three of these events lead my clients back to their normal eating habits…

The take away here is to find a reason YOU want to impress yourself. Most of my clients learn very quickly that my approach is guided toward self-love.

Do things for yourself and you’ll be amazed at the power you’ll have in achieving your goals.

Losing Weight

‘How do I lose weight?’ This is the most common question I receive as a Life Coach. It’s popular for many obvious reasons, but the most valuable reason is that it is so by far one of the most difficult goals to stick to while seemingly should be so easy…

The issue with this question is that it’s the wrong question. The appropriate question should be ‘How do I change my lifestyle so that I look and feel great 100% of the time?!’

Ask yourself that question and write down all of the things that come to your mind. Then ask yourself, ‘Why do I need to lose weight?’

With Life Coaching, we dig deep on this question and identify limiting beliefs that force you to take part in the most common attribute to weight gain – stress eating. Tackling that issue has helped my clients begin a foundation that leads to PERMANENT weight loss.