Ask “On what level will this work out for me?” Instead of “Will this work out for me?” New video

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Life Coach Tommy: Hey guys, Life Coach Tommy here, hope you’re having a productive Friday and you had a productive week and are gearing up for a relaxing weekend or a productive weekend depending on what you’re doing this weekend.

I wanted to send a quick shout out to something very specific. And it has to do with my life coaching clients when – sometimes they establish a goal and they start achieving that goal and self-doubt starts coming in – negativity starts seeping in to their daily life. It could be external it could be from friends, family, or it could be internal. Side Note: internal negativity is the hardest to overcome and I focus a lot on coaching people through overcoming internal negativity.

But, the result of these negative forces, a question pops into their mind – it’s will this work out for me. And when we’re brought forth this question – am I really doing this – is this really worth it, will this work out for me? I’m able to help my clients and I encourage people to think this way instead of that way, and what I ask is that, instead of asking, “Will this work out for me?” Wouldn’t it be better to ask, “On what level will this work out for me?”

And, when I introduce this question into their life they start thinking about, instead of a black and white scenario where this either won’t work out for me or it will work out for me, that how much work do I need to put into this in order for it to work out for me.

So, I’m able to help my clients through life coaching to think that way instead of the other way. And, I give the example of fitness, and diet, and losing weight, and bodybuilding and what not. It’s literally the easiest comparison to give because the science of losing weight is super easy because – anyways I’m not going to go into that – but the science is easy – I’ve written several blogs on how to lose weight.

But, the thing about losing weight is that IF you go to the gym, IF you exercise, and IF you eat healthy, it is virtually impossible for that not to result in some sort of benefit.

Again – let’s say we have levels A, B, and C. If you are investing – let’s say C is the lowest, A is the highest – if you are investing C level of work into your diet and exercise, you’re still going to see results. You’re still going to feel better, you’re still gonna burn fat, you’re still gonna lose a little bit of weight, but not as much as if you did an A level of work where you’re going in and you’re doing hardcore you’re working out five days a week – like I do – THAT level of result, that level is much different than the C level.

And so, again, instead of asking yourself, will this work out for me, I encourage my clients to ask themselves, instead, “On what level will this work out for me?” Because, once again, it re-aligns their focus into how much work are they willing to put in to make this work.

Anyways, I hope you have a very productive Friday, and the biggest thing about the weekend is that it allows you to disconnect sometimes from the daily rituals of the week – so I do encourage you to take some time and meditate. And meditation is literally – doesn’t have to be anything surreal or metaphysical – but it’s literally just taking at least five minutes to breathe and focus on your breathe so that your brain, all the noise that happens, can quiet a little bit and you can seek a little bit of clarity, so here’s hoping you get a little bit of clarity over the weekend through five minutes of meditation – that’s a challenge for you. Have a wonderful weekend!

A quick article written by Living Social on my journey in how I became a Life Coach

Life Coach Tommy has a perceptive insight into human psychology that is uncanny, offering simple, grounded solutions to deeply complex problems. He brings both knowledge and wisdom to his coaching sessions, willing to share his own successes and failures which allow anyone to relate.

16 years ago, after experiencing an unstable childhood, Life Coach Tommy put himself on a journey to discover what it was that we were missing in our daily life that we could use to improve the Human Condition. He found that gaining self-empowerment and setting positive goals was a start.

The positive feedback and knowing that he’s helping individuals, some of whom have lived their entire life with a negative mind-set, bring positive permanent growth to their life is the one thing Life Coach Tommy loves about his job.

The best reaction Life Coach Tommy has ever gotten from a client was when an entrepreneur, after an entire weekend full of team building and leadership exercises for her staff, said that, without his empowering guidance, the weekend wouldnt have turned out as positive as it did.

Life Coach Tommy is a Certified Life Coach based out of Sherman Oaks, CA and serves Los Angeles and the surrounding areas. You can contact him for a free consultation by clicking HERE

Do I need to see a life coach near me or can I have a life coach from anywhere?

When I’m contacted to be someone’s life coach, they are often extremely close to where I reside, in Sherman Oaks, CA.

While it is extremely convenient for face to face interaction, there are some clients that also contact me from the East Coast as well as the Pacific Northwest. As it isn’t financially feasible all the time for either of us to travel to each other on a weekly basis, we are able to do some great work with modern technology, i.e. FaceTime or Skype.

Gone are the days where life coaching is done just over the phone. With FaceTime and/or Skype I am able to offer the same valuable encouragement and goal-setting practices that are experienced through face to face interaction.

So, no matter where you are, whether you’re here in Los Angeles, in my Valley neighborhood, or on the other side of the country, I’m more than excited to help you fulfill your goals and live a satisfying life.

Also, another important question is how to find a life coach and not just, in general, but, how to find a life coach that’s the best fit for you. The basic foundation of finding a life coach that’s right for you is, overall, that gut instinct – how do they make you feel. Do you feel inspired? Motivated? Heard? These are important factors to consider when you find a life coach and connect. Obviously you can easily find a life coach near you by doing a quick google or Yelp search. But get them on the phone, chat with them, and feel them out.

This is why I never take a life coach client unless we’ve a had a FREE 20 minute session that not only allows me to discern your level of commitment to achieving your goals, but also so that you can discern MY level of commitment to guiding you in achieving your goals. We are both, essentially, feeling each other out! I cannot take a client unless I am convinced they are 100% committed to applying the tools and resources I will provide through life coaching.

To what level do you really want to succeed?

By the time my clients have made the decision to hire me as their life coach I learn that, many times, the pursuit of their goals has been halted by one singular question, “Will this work out for me?” And because they couldn’t give a clear answer to that question, their goals were not pursued.

This question doesn’t have to be so black and white. Instead of asking, “Will this work out for me?” Ask, “On what level will this work out for me?”

Crazy thing about this world is that there really isn’t an on/off scenario where, if an individual pursues X it won’t be successful on ANY level… For example, it is virtually impossible for someone to start eating healthy and going to the gym and NOT experience SOME SORT of improvement… If you eat healthy and/or if you go to the gym…you WILL experience some sort of result.

Through coaching, I’m able to show my clients that the level something works out for someone is usually dependent upon how much work they’re willing to put into it and how committed they are to that goal.

Life Coach Tommy is a Certified Life Coach based out of Sherman Oaks, CA and serves Los Angeles and the surrounding areas. You can get back to the home page by clicking HERE

A Life Coach doesn’t give advice – how a life coach pushes you to build your own solution

Often, when someone finds out I’m a Life Coach, they’ll ask, usually to prod for free Life Coaching 🙂 – “What should I do about [insert life dilemma here]?” And I’ll usually respond with, “What do you think you should do about it?” Sometimes they’ll believe I’m joking and move on, but others will respond with true workable things which will result in a follow up question, “So what can you do to make sure you stick with that?”

While the question could seem like a joke response, I am actually giving them a small snippet of free life coaching. A life coach won’t give advice for any specific thing – a life coach’s job is to help push you in the direction you already know you need to go. We do this by asking important questions and helping you find the answer in your life that will help move you along.

Life Coaches have plenty of antidotes, visuals, cliche phrases, etc. but true work and momentum is when a life coach can help a client take ownership of their change by helping them find the empowerment that already lies within their heart.

Contact me today so I can help you find the change in your heart!

Life Coach Tommy is a Certified Life Coach based out of Sherman Oaks, CA and serves Los Angeles and the surrounding areas. You can get back to the home page by clicking HERE

My specialties as a Life Coach and how they can help

Aside from helping my clients achieve overall well-being through self-empowerment and self love, there are three specialties I’m able to help my clients with through life coaching:

1) Relationship Coaching

Intimate, work, social, and family relationships have all been focused on through my life coaching process. The focus is mainly on making sure our communication channels are open and honest. Not only with others, but also, and most importantly, with ourselves.

2) Career Coaching

When it comes to my client’s career path, I am able to help them focus on establishing realistic and attainable goals through goal-setting exercises and helping my clients realize their full potential.

3) Fitness and Nutrition Coaching

So many of my clients simply want to lose weight and lead a healthier lifestyle. But so many are without the resource or knowledge on how to truly create a plan they can stick with and commit to, not only for the summer or an upcoming event, but for the rest of their life!

I help my clients establish solid goals they can remain passionate about while seeing and feeling results within weeks!

Contact me today and let me know which Life Coach you need!

Life Coach Tommy is a Certified Life Coach based out of Sherman Oaks, CA and serves Los Angeles and the surrounding areas. You can get back to the home page by clicking HERE

A quick note on relationship coaching and how to make yourself first

As a life coach, I have had clients who spend a considerable amount of time talking about their husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/partner/question mark and trying to understand the decisions their significant other is making that could be hurting the relationship.

My role in this common scenario, is to help my clients understand how to manage their expectations and be a stronger communicator with themselves (which will, in turn, help them communicate better with their partner). When we work on the client’s relationship, our main focus is on them and how they are communicating and the multitude of communication tricks they can use that will allow their partner to communicate in return and help them understand the decisions they are making.

Essentially, I give my clients the tools so that they can figure it out on their own. Without having their partner present in their session, I couldn’t (nor should I) try to explain their partner’s actions. Through relationship coaching, though, we can figure out what needs to be added to get them there. It’s the same method I use in non-relationship coaching, when helping my clients figure out how to deal with any external force affecting their lives which seems beyond their control. The secret here is that the answer is inside your heart 🙂 and I can help you find it.

Life Coach Tommy is a Certified Life Coach based out of Sherman Oaks, CA and serves Los Angeles and the surrounding areas. You can get back to the home page by clicking HERE