The Power of ‘Why’ in Goal-Setting

How do I set goals?     How do I achieve my goals?

Scroll Down to the bottom to watch my video on the Power of ‘Why’ and how important it is to goal-setting.

Goal setting, goal setting, goal setting! It’s one of the most important first steps to bring positive change to your life and it’s one of my deep specialties and the most value I bring to my life coaching clients. Setting, committing, and achieving goals.

The first and foremost step to establishing a goal is to WRITE IT DOWN. Get it out of your head and onto a sheet of paper. For example, let’s say your goal is to lose weight. If this is one of your goals, then, right now, take out a long sheet of paper and, at the very top write, “I want to lose weight.”

You now have this goal out of your head and into the Universe and you can see it, right there in front of you.

Next step: underneath where you’ve written your goal (in this case we’ve written down, “I want to lose weight.”) write out the word, ‘Why?’ and then reflect on that. Why DO you want to lose weight? Take some time and really brainstorm the reasons why you want to lose weight. It’s very important to establish a powerful ‘why’ to support your goal. Otherwise, you simply have a goal and nothing to support it. Why, why, why. Why do you want to lose weight? Take a moment and write out a paragraph as to why it is you want to lose weight.

Third step: After you’ve written down your goal, and you’ve written out your strong ‘why’, underneath your why paragraph, write out the question, “How?” so that we can focus on HOW you’re going to achieve this goal. Really think about this and write out, at minimum, 10 steps on how you can achieve this goal. Write out 10 things you can commit to without any reservation to help you achieve this goal. You can write out 20 steps, you can write out 15, it’s up to you, but write out at least 10 steps to help you really dig and brainstorm what you’ll need to do to accomplish this goal.

So far you have your goal written down, you’ve established a strong and powerful ‘why’ and you’ve written out at least 10 things that show how you’re going to accomplish your goal. The last step is to go back to the top of the paper where you wrote out your goal, take your pen or pencil and scratch out the word “WANT” and replace it with the word “WILL” so that it reads, “I WILL lose weight.”

Whenever you say or write that you “want” something, you’re not pushing yourself to achieve that something, you’re simply creating a want for it. When you tell yourself (and the Universe) that you WILL do something, yourself and the Universe will take note.

Now take this sheet of paper and place it somewhere where you can view it every single day. Your fridge, your computer, your workstation, your front door, any place where you’ll see it every day so that it can serve as a reminder that this is a commitment you made with yourself.

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Losing Weight Part 3

It’s such a common goal, it gets three separate blogs. Health and nutrition will actually get a lot of attention as, without it, achieving other goals becomes more challenging than they could be if health were more under control.

Losing Weight is actually extremely simple, as it’s basic foundation is driven through static scientific physiology. Essentially, if you do A, you will get B. There is no mystery or magic behind it. The weight loss challenge exists due to the fact that we live in a culture that pushes us to consume all kinds of delicious food. Overcoming the psychological temptation is the key to immersing yourself in the science that will create weight loss.

Here are the three simple keys to losing weight and feeling great:

1. Calorie count

Everyone has a minimum calorie count that will trigger weight loss. You’ll have to figure out your own based on age and height.

2. Micronutrients

Eating 1000 calories of pizza vs eating 1000 calories of carrots will administer the same weight loss results. However, you won’t feel great in either situation…

3. Fitness

This doesn’t mean, essentially, sweating it out at the gym every single day. Fitness could be just getting your heart to pump blood through your veins for 20 minutes at a faster pace than it normally would.

And that’s it. Calorie count, micronutrients, and fitness. So simple, yet so hard to commit to.

So how do we commit to it? Well, that requires intensive goal setting and establishing a powerful WHY, which a life coach can help with.

Communication IS key

The very first thing I look into when starting a relationship with a life coaching client is their communication skills. I assess where they are in their life when it comes to two extremely important avenues of communication: the way they communicate with the people around them, and, most importantly, the way they communicate with themselves.

The second part is where we dig deep, for if we aren’t starting off with positive communication with self, we aren’t going to get anywhere.

It is so important to develop a positive relationship with self. If you aren’t developing a positive relationship with yourself, it is virtually impossible to have a positive relationship with anyone else in your life.

Once you’ve learned to love yourself, you can genuinely express and communicate positively with others and you’ll be surprised by how much easier it will be to fulfill your goals.

Today, use this Monday to motivate yourself into positive self-love. If you’ve damaged the relationship with self, take time, be patient, but start today by looking at yourself in the mirror and appreciating the positive strengths you do have.

Want vs Will

When I first speak with my life coaching clients, our focus is aligned toward what they want out of life, and what they think they need to change in order to make their lives more fulfilling.

And each time my clients say they ‘WANT’ something or they ‘WANT’ to be something, I ask if they’re committed enough to that idea to shift their focus and say that they WILL have it or they WILL be it.

Whenever you say ‘I WANT to be a millionaire.’ The Universe takes note and creates it for you. The WANT is created and nothing else.

But when you say you WILL be a millionaire, the universe takes note of that as well. Suddenly, your inner psychology takes control and starts constructing paths on how to get there.

Once my clients are committed to what they WILL become or have, we are then able to focus on the next step and lay out a path of HOW.

Don’t be a ‘wannabe’, commit, make a decision and say what you WILL become, what you WILL have, what you WILL do and the Universe will take note.

Nature

“Nothing happens to anyone that he is not formed by nature to bear.” -Marcus Aurelius

We have all heard the phrase ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ and it’s extremely true…if you pay attention.

The funny and interesting thing about our existence in this universe is that everything that happens to us, if we can control our perception, can be used to overcome the next challenge or struggle that will inevitably enter our path.

We must pay attention, though. Often, my clients will perceive themselves as victims to some benevolent force that doesn’t want them to enjoy a fulfilling life.

This simply isn’t true. YOU are your own benevolent force. YOU have control over your own perceptions and your own response toward the events that happen.

Use them to learn so that nature can be seen as an educational tool for your life.

Losing Weight Part 2

Losing Weight, as mentioned previously, is one of the most common reasons someone would hire a life coach. It’s the number one reason people decide to hire me. The reason, however, why my clients want to lose weight, usually digs deeper into more profound limiting beliefs I enjoy uncovering.

And it usually surrounds trying to impress someone. The tragedy behind that reason is that three things happen:

A) The subject is impressed, but their response is underwhelming.

B) The subject is impressed, the receiver receives all that they were hoping for, but, like an addicts high, the feeling dissipates over time.

C) The subject is unimpressed.

All three of these events lead my clients back to their normal eating habits…

The take away here is to find a reason YOU want to impress yourself. Most of my clients learn very quickly that my approach is guided toward self-love.

Do things for yourself and you’ll be amazed at the power you’ll have in achieving your goals.

Sticking to Goals

WRITE THEM DOWN! Keep yourself accountable. Keep them visible, post them everywhere. How do you stick to your goals? Focus on why it’s important to achieve that goal. Make sure your ‘WHY’ is the most powerful why you can possibly think of. Why do you want to lose weight? To impress some girl? Then what? Do you think it’s better to lose weight so that you can feel great 100% of the time? And not just at the beginning of the year?

Focus on WHAT your goals are. Then focus on HOW you’ll obtain them. And, finally, WHY. And dig deep for your WHY. Without a strong and foundation setting WHY, sticking to your goals is impossible.